How much therapy is enough? Where's the line between getting your child all the help he needs versus just allowing him to be another kid? Isn't there value in keeping him in the class surrounded by other children? Is it possible that other children are learning from him as he's learning from them? When do we accept who our kids are and stop trying to change them? Are we trying to prove that we're good parents or are we doing what's best for our kids?

Follow up:

Should we go into debt in order to get our kids the help they need? Should we take out a second mortgage on our house? Should the schools be doing a better job of educating kids with special needs? Should we, the parents, be doing a better job at it? How did this happen to our family? Who's working on a cure? Do I need to become a scientist myself and start working toward a cure? Should I go back to school and become a doctor? Do doctors have a clue about ASD? Can I trust doctors? Is anyone out there on my side?

Why does the special education process feel like a fight? Should we wear boxing gloves to the IEP Meeting? Does anyone out there understand what it's like to deal with autism day in and day out?

What is the definition of 'normal'?

Will I ever get to hear "I love you" come out of my child's mouth?

Count them. That's 21 questions. I have the answers to some of them. The Bible has the answers to a lot of them. And some of the questions don't matter. Look at the last question. My answer to that question is another question - Does it really matter? If you're a parent you know your child loves you. My son can say it, but I had to wait forever to hear it. Regardless, he doesn't know what it means. He's just repeating words he has heard. It's a learned response. To want to hear those words is just for self gratification. My son loves me and I know that in my heart. No question about it.